Inspirations/Quotes

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Happy Mother’s Day! (Wolf Style)

“The strength of the wolf, is the tenderness shown to it’s pups, encouraging them to thrive in a sometimes brutal, harsh world. For without the pups, there would be no pack.” ~ Anonymous

ATW would like to express our sincere wishes to all the mothers, Happy Mother’s Day!

 

For the Protective Mothers who are grieving the loss or separation of children, you have our support.  ATW honors your love and commitment to your children this Mother’s Day, and always. 

 

Also visit “Happy Mother’s Day: Wolf and Mother Quote”: http://abusiveadvocates.com/2013/05/13/quote-wolf-and-mother/

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Quote: Never Be Afraid to Raise Your Voice

“Never be afraid to raise your voice for honesty and truth and compassion against injustice and lying and greed.

If people all over the world…would do this, it would change the earth.” — William Faulkner, author

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Happy Mother’s Day (Quote Wolf & Mother)

“When I first arrived in Norway, people told me that there weren’t any wolves left, save for one lone female, passing through on her way back to Russia..

The loss of the wolf is like the loss of a mother. Somewhere she roams in memory, in darkness. Our bond with her is inexplicable, before the beginning of time. She is fierce love; she is sorrow. She is howling in the wilderness we can never see, calling us home. She is what we fear–and what we long to return to–the heat of the cave and animal closeness, before all civilization and reason.”

–Mira Bartok, p. 241, “The Memory Palace”. Free Press: 2011. A daughter’s memoir about Bartok’s mentally ill mother, their relationship and the impact of her mother’s illness on her life. Bartok uses art and writing throughout this book to make sense of her experiences, and find peace among the madness.

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A.T.W’s intention and purpose; A response to a readers’ comment

We have recently received a comment by a reader, questioning A.T.W’s intention and motive for this blog. It was implied that we were “trashing” moms. In the interest of truth, transparency and clarity, we have decided to post our response to reinforce for all our readers A.T.W’s intention and purpose. The readers’ comment may be found on our home page.

A.T.W’s response:

We thank this reader for her comment.

We at A.T.W are very well aware of the problems faced by moms along with the dynamics of family court and D.V victims. We are also aware of abuse-by-proxy and the damage caused by this type of abuse. We understand many changes need to be made in family court in order to protect the children and their mothers. We take great pains to thoroughly research documented proof before we post information. We post proof in the form of official public court documents, public police records or screen shots that show a statement made in our subject’s own words.We also note sequence of events to further stay true to the truth as we do not want to take an event out of context,which might be confusing and deceiving. We present the truth with proof to back it up and let the reader decide. We are not gender bias. Just because a advocate/ mom says something, does not make it so. Occasionally, a self-proclaimed victim’s advocate and DV “expert” is really an abuser and bully in disguise. We are not blind to the truth, backed up with documented proof because of a person’s gender. We research and provide the proof. We are simply seeking the truth ,regardless of gender, and presenting the documented proof to the readers.
This is not cyber- bullying,or “trashing”- this is factual reporting. In fact some moms exposed on our site have been cyber- bullying innocent victims ( including other moms) in the most vicious ways, on various internet sites for many years.

We specifically stated we do not necessarily endorse other sites referenced, that post similar information on matters A.T.W has researched see below:

“Examples of some collateral information that was made public before this blog was published, this is presented in the interest of truth; these are not endorsements of any kind.”

Although our research did back up the raw facts posted on these sites.

The reader stated:
..”leaves many women wondering exactly what purpose Among The Wolves serves.”

Our purpose is to expose liars and abusers within victim advocacy organizations. Sadly some mothers’ are abusers, some mothers’ misrepresent themselves, some mothers suffer from personality disorders. Again we are not gender bias. Hopefully our blog will protect the honest ,sincere mother from seeking counsel from a fake advocate/ abuser mother, who may potentially hurt her , her case, and therefore her children . Our intention is to prevent the honest mother – truly being victimized by family court- from being re- victimized, saving herself and her children from experiencing even more pain and heartache.
A.T.W

The truth is incontrovertible. Malice may attack it, ignorance may deride it, but in the end, there it is.
Winston Churchill

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Profile of a Bully: Robert Hare PhD Exposes the Mind & Motivations of a Bully

 As you read this article, you will see common behaviors and bullying tactics used with the abusive advocates exposed on ATW.

Robert Hare, PhD. offers an in-depth look into the mind, and motivations of a bully. Hare is a world-leading authority on psychopathic behaviour. He comes to a startling conclusion that many bullies suffer from anti-social personality disorder (Antisocial Personality Disorder APD and the serial bully: http://www.squidoo.com/profile-of-a-bully#module124908171)

Hare comments, “I estimate that around 1 person in 30 (approximately 2 million) in the UK exhibits the profile of the serial bully whose behaviour is congruent with many of the diagnostic criteria for Antisocial Personality Disorder. Some serial bullies meet sufficient clinical criteria to merit the label psychopath….

However, most of the research on Antisocial Personality Disorder has been undertaken with people who are physically violent, as these people have come to the attention of the authorities (police, welfare agencies, doctors, psychiatrists, etc) through their recognised (physically) antisocial behaviour. They have committed criminal, arrestable offences. I believe relatively little research has been undertaken with people who are psychologically violent but rarely physically violent; these people tend to commit non-criminal, non-arrestable offences.“

 

WHY DO THEY BULLY?

According to Hare, the bully is fueled by jealousy and envy to target a competent and popular individual. The bully projects their own feelings of inadequacy and self doubt onto the victim, the harassment becomes a way for the bully to confront their own inner demons. By controlling the victim, the bully feels more in control, secure of their own underlying problems.

When the victim fights back, and points out the wrongful behavior of the bully, the bully is gripped by a paranoid fear of being exposed. The bully then views the victim as a threat that needs to be neutralized or eliminated; by any means possible. The bullying escalates, with the intent to silence the victim, control the victim or get them to retract. After that happens, the bully again feels secure. Then there is a period of 2 days to 2 weeks of rest then the bully begins the vicious cycle all over again.

Bullying is a temporary fix to an underlying problem, it is much like a high chased by a drug user than initially seems to satisfy then leads to disappointment, and a destructive downward spiral that affects all areas of the bully’s life.

 

PROFILE OF A BULLY

Here is a short summary of Hare’s profile of a bully, for a more detailed explanation, please visit the link below.

–Anecdotal evidence suggests that people who bully as adults were once bullies in school; not only did they learn to bully in school but learned they could get away with it.

–Alternately, the bully may have been a victim to other abuse. Abusive and controlling behavior modeled to the bully at a young age was adopted as a way of asserting their needs, and became a way of dealing with relationships.

–The serial bully is unable and unwilling to act by the rules of society, yet insists that everyone else does…The bully will often point out the mistakes or short comings of others.

–Most of the offences committed by the serial bully are non-criminal and therefore non-arrestable. For a list of these types of offenses visit: http://www.bullyonline.org/workbully/serial.htm#Worms

-The serial bully is a convincing liar with a Jekyll and Hyde personality who gains gratification from bullying others. The serial bully will target and bully any person whom he believes is a threat (may expose the bully’s shortcomings, criminal behavior or abusive behavior). The bully will also target anyone who would threaten the bully’s job, promotion prospects and social status/position.

– The serial bully acts randomly and impulsively, and has selective memory, and will purposefully forget their own actions, words, choices etc (for their own benefit).

-The serial bully regularly shows impatience and irritability, especially when questioned or called to account, and then becomes aggressive; a psychological assault usually follows.

-When people begin to notice the bullying, and begin ask questions or speak up for the victim, the bully acts like they are the victim, or suddenly develops a health condition which excuses their actions, in an attempt to deny responsibility for their behavior.

-The serial bully rarely stays in one position long and there is no loyalty to anyone except their own self.

-The serial bully shows no remorse, he may appearance to have no conscience. In truth, the conscience is selectively switched off. The serial bully always blames others as a means of avoiding accepting responsibility for their behavior and the effect it has on others.

— The serial bully in the workplace is always over 18.

— The bully is usually in a position of responsibility, or seeks to place themselves in a position of authority over others

— The common goal of the bully is power, control and domination

For more visit “Detailed Profile of a Bully”: http://www.bullyonline.org/workbully/serial.htm#Worms

 “Those Who Can, Do, Those Who Don’t, Bully.”, Visit Bully online for more support, information and books : http://www.bullyonline.org

 

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Thank You to Our Readers & Supporters

We, at ATW, wish to take this time to thank our many readers. We appreciate your feedback, support and tips. Please keep ’em coming! We want to  acknowledge the numerous e-mails and positive reactions to our page .

We  will continue to present you with the objective truth in our articles, supported by evidence  and screen shots, exposing abusers hiding in victim advocacy groups.

We at ATW will continue to remain neutral, but we wish to inform that over the past few days, there have been several  letters in support of certain people targeted for bullying and attacks–these supportive individuals wish to remain anonymous. We respect the need for privacy and hope that one day, their voices can be heard without fear of retaliation.

Stay tuned as we continue to post!

ATW

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